- Partner-exes that don’t want to give up that relationship and believe that if they persist long enough, they can get it back
- Delusional- this person fantasizes that the person will be or is interested in them. They may believe that they have a relationship with that person even when they may have never met them. Movie stars are good examples of the targets of this type of stalker, but they may also be a good teacher, doctor, minister, married woman or other person.
- Angry- Some issues has upset the stalker that he is seeking to intimidate or harm the person he believes influenced or controls that issue. Politicians are frequent victims of this type of stalker.
- John Lennon was stalked and killed by Mark David Chapman in 1980
- 1 million women are stalked annually
- Average stalking lasts 1.8 years
- 78% of all stalking victims are women
- 77% of those women know their stalkers
- 43% report the stalking started after a relationship ended
- 48% of the stalkers were spouses, ex-spouses or intimate partners and 81%of these stalkers physically assaulted their victims
What to do
- Talk with the police and local prosecutor
- Contact an anti-stalking organization or other women’s help group for support and assistance
- Document all instances of harassment- evidence-emails, letters, injuries, damage, photos with dates on them
- Change all your locks immediately
- Change email, answering machine passwords- prevents them from accessing your messages
- Lock your mailbox or rent a post office box
- Get a new unlisted telephone number and only give it to close family and friends. Keep the old number active with an answering machine so the stalker can call that number. If you terminate the old number, the stalker will try to find your new number or harass you some other way
- Tell your friends and family what’s going on
- Vary time and routes if you think you are being followed go to the police station
- Keep your car locked at all times
- Tell your employer about what is going on. Arrange to have your coworkers screen your calls and any visitors. Have your name removed from your parking lot
- Have your name blocked on the internet and other places people can get your personal info
- Consider getting a dog
- Consider a restraining order. Police can take action if it is violated, be prepared for it to be violated, statistics indicate it will be violated 69% of the time.
- Consider moving
- Take a women’s self defense class
- Have the police talk with the stalker
3 ways most stalking cease: victims move, police talk with the stalker, the stalker finds a new love interest
College women stalked
- 13% of college women are stalked
- Average length is 2 months
- 15% were threatened or some attempt was made to harm them
- 17% of the time the stalking was reported to the police
- 93% told some one, usually a friend, that they were being stalked
- 66% were boyfriends, ex-boyfriends or classmates
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